What kind of friend are you?

No man (or woman) is meant to be an island. We were designed to be in relationships – we’re born into families, make friends in school, and create our own families. Our interactions in these relationships shape our worldview, broaden our perspective, and influence our way of thinking. And when we value and support our loved ones, we inspire them to be the very best they can be. And if we’re lucky, we may even be able to witness the fruits of our love in their lives, work, and relationships. What kind of friend are you? And what kind of friend do you need?

©2015 Susie Lee

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My Musings for Today

Don’t do it, don’t do it – don’t second-guess or doubt yourself. Better to take risks than to do nothing at all. Move forward with confidence but take things in strides. Know your worth then surround yourself with people who know it too. Take risks. Have the courage to express the voice within. Work with people who you like and respect. Don’t say yes when you really want to say no. Stop being a people pleaser. Never compromise your values, beliefs, and convictions. Put love before work. Always work on your craft. Find a hobby in the midst of pursuing your dreams. Forgive yourself and others. Lessons learned, no regrets. Foster gratitude everyday. Instead of making assumptions, ask for clarification. Make time for people, especially those who could use a helping hand. Fill your heart with so much love that there’s no room for hatred. If you’re unhappy with some part of your life, change it. Don’t complain. Never ever put yourself down in thought, word, or deed. Replace pride with humility. Be generous with your time, money, and resources because you can’t take it with you once you’re dead. Invest in people through kindness, gentleness, and patience. Always be hopeful, joyful, and thankful.

©2015 Susie Lee

Don’t suffer needlessly, take responsibility. 

IMG_2192We don’t have to suffer needlessly with anger, resentment, or sadness in our lives. We have the power to change our feelings at any given moment. One of the ways we can change our feelings is to take responsibility for it. When we begin to take ownership of our feelings; we’ll stop blaming people for how they’re making us feel, we’ll stop taking offence to their behaviour, and we’ll stop fighting for what they’re not giving to us. Blaming others for how we feel will only bring us heartache, sadness, and pain. This sheer act of taking ownership of our feelings will quickly transform our lives, strengthen our relationships, and alter our attitudes. It’ll also give us a peace of mind, security within, and open doors to communication and growth. May strength, grace, and wisdom guide you in this journey.

©2015 Susie Lee

Keep moving & keep growing.

IMG_2170-0Don’t ever give up. Believe in yourself. Celebrate every small victory. Look back with satisfaction and look forward with hope. Everyday is new opportunity to grow, discover, and learn despite past hurts, regrets, or mistakes. Don’t compare yourself with others as life unfolds for each person in their own time. Drop the ego and practice humility on a daily basis. Don’t be content with what you know, always be a learner. Be kind, especially to those who can’t repay you back. Practice self-control by desiring fewer things. Learn to de-clutter your living space, office space, and especially your mental space. If you’re feeling lost, get back to the basics. It’s okay to start over with life, love, and your dreams.

©2015 Susie Lee

Love’s a drug & everyone’s a junkie.

junkieWhether you’re single or taken, love affects us all – we need it, give it, and use it. Every one of us has this immeasurable longing to be loved and deep desire to give love to our friends, family, and the world at large. Although love itself cannot be seen it can be visible through our actions towards one another and it can be felt in our hearts beyond words can ever articulate.

Valentine’s Day is for all of us, not just for some. This day is a wonderful reminder of our greatest gift to one another – our capability to give love and to receive love. As we embrace this truth and embody this love in every part of our lives, may we see the transformation within ourselves and in the lives around us. Happy Love Day!

©2015 Susie Lee

Be brave through life’s battle.

IMG_2047Today, I’ve finally accepted the fact that life isn’t going to be perfect – relationships won’t look happily ever after, best intentions won’t always turn out for the best, life won’t be all figured out, and mistakes will repeat itself. There’s no quick fix or an easy band-aid solution to life’s problems. Sometimes they go away but most times they come back disguised in different forms. Life is both beautiful and painful.

We need to understand that there’ll be some great days and some not so great days. And that’s okay. Instead of trying to get rid of, numb, or ignore our pain, it would be wise to embrace the lessons it wants to bring to us. I know it’ll be painful, even to the point of death. But maybe, just maybe, new life will emerge from the ashes of death – the kind of life that can’t be killed by human hands or life’s circumstance. Be brave through life’s battle; it’s okay to stumble along the way just do your best, be true to who you are, and never give up – there’s beauty waiting for you right around the corner.

©2015 Susie Lee

Be impressive without having to impress.

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Stop trying to please or impress people. Don’t let your self-worth be measured in how many social media friends you have or how many likes you get on a post. Don’t buckle under the weight of rejection or criticism, don’t let mere words crush your unwavering spirit – you’re stronger than that. You’re more than what people say or do to you.

You’re a brilliant beautiful being who can create, inspire, and give. Use your time to explore who you are and discover what you like. Love yourself by letting go of other people’s opinions of you. Impress yourself rather than trying to win the approval of others. Amaze yourself by being true to who you are. Surprise yourself by taking the time to get to know yourself, and I guarantee you’ll be in awe.

©2015 Susie Lee

Comparison leads to a dead end road.

2015/01/img_1671-0.jpgIt’s a waste of time comparing ourselves to others and how we don’t measure up to them physically, materially, or socially. Fact is there will always be someone younger, prettier (handsome), smarter, funnier, and richer than us. And when we compare ourselves with others, we’ll find ourselves on a dead end road to self-pity, misery, and self-loathing. The solution isn’t to lock ourselves in our homes and not see a single soul ever again.

One of the ways we can combat this temptation of comparison is to foster an attitude of gratitude for our strengths, natural abilities, and unique features. Not only is it important to magnify our strengths but it’s also important to embrace our weaknesses because it gives us a realistic and holistic acceptance of who we are (our strengths along with our weaknesses). It shatters the delusion of perfection and the unhealthy obsession to pursue it in our bodies, careers, and relationships. Life isn’t perfect but we can choose to see these little imperfections as life’s beauty marks in us and in our lives.

©2015 Susie Lee

You’re bright & beautiful.

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You’re beautiful at every angle.

I hope you have someone in your life that tells you how beautiful you are – to articulate the beauty they see in you, the flickers of greatness they feel from you, and the light that illuminates within you. You’re a unique fingerprint that can’t be replicated in another. Your beauty, your talents, your voice, your personality, your quirks, your memories, and experiences – this is what makes you, you. Maybe if you could see yourself from every angle, you’d realize just how beautiful you are.

©2014 Susie Lee

Know that you are beautiful