Stop trying to please or impress people. Don’t let your self-worth be measured in how many social media friends you have or how many likes you get on a post. Don’t buckle under the weight of rejection or criticism, don’t let mere words crush your unwavering spirit – you’re stronger than that. You’re more than what people say or do to you.
You’re a brilliant beautiful being who can create, inspire, and give. Use your time to explore who you are and discover what you like. Love yourself by letting go of other people’s opinions of you. Impress yourself rather than trying to win the approval of others. Amaze yourself by being true to who you are. Surprise yourself by taking the time to get to know yourself, and I guarantee you’ll be in awe.
It’s almost impossible to be happy for someone when we’re envying him or her. Envy isn’t necessarily about wanting what the other person has but more about our fears and insecurities within, ‘I’m going to get left behind? I’m not good enough? Why not me?’ It’s not about getting something in as much as emphasizing who we aren’t. That’s why it takes an incredible amount of maturity to be genuinely happy for someone while we’re wrestling with our own demons. If we’re not careful, these bitter feelings will poison our thoughts and slowly rot our hearts. Of course, we’d never openly admit we’re envious but if we don’t learn to rise above it, it’ll eat us up from the inside out.
Instead of bashing ourselves for feeling envious, we should use it as an indicator to see what’s going on in our hearts – do we have a lust for fame, desire for recognition, or a sense of entitlement? We can use our pain and heartache as an opportunity to discover, grow, and improve ourselves. Being envious won’t change the situation but it will change us, for the worse. Life’s too short to compare and complain so we might as well have a great attitude and celebrate with those around us.
Making changes doesn’t always have to be drastic nor will the results always be dramatic. Sometimes it’s the little things we do everyday that make the biggest difference in the end. For example, many people start off the New Year with good intentions of getting back into shape – so they’ll sign up for a gym membership or they’ll try a new diet. But as the weeks and months go by, those intentions may fall to the wayside of busyness, neglect, or discouragement.
I believe making small efforts everyday like choosing to take the stairs instead of the elevator, going for a simple walk during your break rather than to the gym after work, or having the willpower to say ‘no’ to the cookie will impact your health in the long run. Making changes doesn’t have to be painful it’s simply about making small positive choices everyday. So remember, every little bit will help whether it’s exercising, eating healthy, or being kind to someone.
There will be days when you’re not feeling your best, when you’d rather stay in bed than face the day. Some days living your best just might mean trying to make it through the day. And that’s ok. Be gentle and kind to yourself during these times for it’s the loving thing you can do. I know you may not believe it today but brighter days are just ahead.
It’s a waste of time comparing ourselves to others and how we don’t measure up to them physically, materially, or socially. Fact is there will always be someone younger, prettier (handsome), smarter, funnier, and richer than us. And when we compare ourselves with others, we’ll find ourselves on a dead end road to self-pity, misery, and self-loathing. The solution isn’t to lock ourselves in our homes and not see a single soul ever again.
One of the ways we can combat this temptation of comparison is to foster an attitude of gratitude for our strengths, natural abilities, and unique features. Not only is it important to magnify our strengths but it’s also important to embrace our weaknesses because it gives us a realistic and holistic acceptance of who we are (our strengths along with our weaknesses). It shatters the delusion of perfection and the unhealthy obsession to pursue it in our bodies, careers, and relationships. Life isn’t perfect but we can choose to see these little imperfections as life’s beauty marks in us and in our lives.
The New Year always brings a sense of hope and promise for the upcoming year – it helps to re-set our mental attitude, fills our hearts with expectations, and gives us a greater hope for the future. But it can also be a stressful time filled with the expectation to change that may be followed by disappointments when they’re not fulfilled. Be encouraged to know we’re given a new chance everyday – a new slate for our health, attitude, relationships, and goals. We must foster a New Year’s attitude everyday not just at the beginning of the calendar year. Everyday is an opportunity to start over, begin anew, and make necessary changes. We’re given 365 chances to make a change in our lives, not just for the first few days of the year. Instead of a New Year let’s make it a New Day, everyday.
I wish you and your loved ones all the best of 2015!