I’ve come to realize that most of us have the tendency to live in the future – we think about what we need to do sooner, later, or eventually. It starts from the time we’re young – we want to grow up, finish school, be independent, make money, get married, buy a house, have kids, and freedom 55. And as adults we subconsciously wish, probably on a daily basis, that we were healthier, wealthier, and happier. By mentally living in the future, we fail to be in the present and unfortunately, miss those defining moments of happiness around us. The other day, as I paused to give thanks for my breakfast, I realized how lucky I was to have a choice every morning of what to eat for breakfast. And in that moment, I was happy and grateful. Being in the moment + Being appreciative = Being happy.
©2014 Susie Lee
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in life is that no one else is responsible for your health and happiness. We each have the power within to create the life we want. No one can do that for you. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying happiness is the end all be all to our lives but I believe, subconsciously, we often tend to look to others to fulfill our hopes, dreams, and expectations of happiness. We don’t need a relationship to make us happy, we don’t need a career to define who we are, and we don’t need a big house to prove we’ve made it. Our lives our worth more than what’s in our bank account, what brand we’re wearing, or who we’re associating with. All of us are here for a greater purpose – to contribute to the good of mankind and be responsible stewards of mother earth. Our happiness doesn’t come from things or people, they come from within, so that no one can ever rob us of it.
It’s okay to be sad. There’s no shame in how we feel and sometimes, we just need to ride out the emotion. For the heart often reveals what our words fail to say. Don’t let anyone belittle how you feel – it’s yours and yours only. And unless they understand, you may want to take sometime to stay away from people like this. Sometimes, a good cry and sleep is all you might need. It’s important to acknowledge the pain and feel the sadness but don’t stay in that place forever, and don’t be tempted to feel sorry for yourself. It’s natural to feel sad by the situation or circumstance but don’t play the victim because playing the victim robs you of your inner strength. You see, sadness can either strengthen you or weaken you. The choice is up to you.
After your sadness has dissipated, start filling yourself back up with things that are inspirational, heart warming, and joyful. This’ll help you to think and feel outside of yourself – bringing to mind all the awesomeness and beauty in this world.
Our pain, after it’s done, is not meant to be self-serving but rather an outpouring of courage and strength into others who are struggling in their own storms of life.
©2014 Susie Lee