Love’s a Choice, Not a Feeling

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Lately, I’ve had this thorn in my side… that’s been the struggle to love (or perhaps accept) someone who’s rude, mean, and selfish. It’s much easier to tolerate this behavior from a stranger but much harder from a person who’s close to you.

My first instincts are generally to avoid them – whether it’s seeing them or interacting with them. But realistically, I know I can’t avoid them forever. And I know deep down in my heart there’s a lesson to be learned. I’m learning that my worst enemies are, ironically, the best teachers – they teach me how to be patient, how to love unconditionally and how to practice forgiveness. It’s not easy but I’m learning to embrace these seemingly difficult people (and situations) in order to learn and embody love, kindness and compassion. This is what transforms lives and touches hearts, especially mine.

Every morning, I make a conscious decision to love because I know it’s the right thing to do. I make a conscious decision to forgive because I want to be set free. I make a conscious decision to have a positive attitude because I know everyone’s a work in progress, including me. I want to let go so I can move on – to love and live in freedom. Happiness isn’t a feeling but a daily choice. But you have to want it. I mean really want it. Choose love. One day at a time.

©2012 Susie Lee

Rejuvenate Yourself Today

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I’m SO excited it’s the weekend! Today, I’m looking forward to spending some alone time. I’m taking my sweet time and not being pressed, stressed or rushed to do anything. I’m not doing the “should’s” or thinking about the “have to’s”. I’m officially taking a mental break today. I’m going to reflect on all the good things that have happened to me this past week. I’m not taking myself (especially others) seriously instead I’m going to laugh and be lighthearted. I refuse to let anyone rain on my parade. I’m going to relax and lounge in my PJs as long as possible. Right now, I’m eating my breakfast in front of the fireplace with a hot mug of cereal in my hands and looking off into the blue, blue sky… (sigh) That’s as far as I’ve gotten in my day. And so far, I’m very content.

I hope your day will be relaxing and refreshing too!

©2012 Susie Lee

Poster of the Week | Small Acts, Big Impact

Don't ForgetI’m totally guilty of this. I’m so busy with ‘my life’; work, deadlines, plans, hopes and dreams. That I sometimes forget (or underestimate) to reach out to my parents in simple small ways I know would make their day – a phone call, a hug, a smile, a meal, a ride, a thank you note, a listening ear, a helping hand, or a unexpected visit. As they get older, I believe it’s the small acts of kindness that’ll touch their hearts rather than the once-in-a-while-big-events. My greatest hope is that my actions will always be motivated by love rather than by fear, expectations or guilt. In our parent’s season of change, may we honour them by expressing and showing how important they are to us today, and in the days to come.

©2012 Susie Lee

It’s Never Too Late or Too Early

“The loneliest people are the kindest.
The saddest people smile the brightest.
The most damaged people are the wisest.
All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.”
-Anonymous

I thought of my dad when I read this quote as it describes him. Especially over the last few years of seeing him in physical discomfort and with increased loneliness of growing old. I’ve been told that you’ll never fully appreciate your parents until you have kids of your own or until they’re gone. I don’t want to wait until that day to fully appreciate and embrace them. As the holidays draw near, give the gift of time (and thanks) to your parents. It’s never too late or too early. Wishing you the best. Always.

©2012 Susie Lee

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is what my dad looks like. All the time. Truly.

Video of the Week | Parents Are Awesome

Every so often I come across a video noteworthy of being Video of the Week. This Parent Rap Video is noteworthy. I not only love this creative video because it made me laugh but because of it’s truth. I know, sometimes, life can be tough but I believe parenting can be tougher. During those tough times, keep the love and laughter close at hand and see the big picture when those small things drive you insane. Have a fun week!

©2012 Susie Lee

Count Your Blessings

With US Thanksgiving Day right around the corner, I thought today’s post would be quite fitting. Let’s celebrate our blessings 365 days rather than just 1 day of the year. Here’s to you and your loved ones during this Thanksgiving Day.

©2012 Susie Lee

Poster of the Week | What Are You Waiting For?

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Happiness is an Attitude

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Quotes of the Week | Happiness is Yours

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
– Og Mandino

LIFE IS:
Trusting and taking chances,
losing and finding happiness,
appreciating the memories and
learning from the past.
– Anonymous

Happiness is not something you get
but something you do.
– Anonymous

In one year from today,
How do you think your life will be different?
– Anonymous

Choose happiness.
– Anonymous

Happiness is a conscious choice,
not an automatic response.
– Mildred Barthel

The trick is to enjoy life.
Don’t wish away your days,
waiting for better ones ahead.
– Marjorie Pay Hinckley

The happiness of your life depends
on the quality of your thoughts.
– Anonymous

I’ve decide to be happy
because it’s good for my health.
– Anonymous

©2012 Susie Lee

Poster of the Week | 7 Steps to Happiness

I hope you’re having a terrific week!